We all ask it.
We question why we are addicted, then we don’t, then something happens and we question again.
Sometimes we ask ‘why’ relative to something specific.
That ‘why’ visited me.
I finished something. It was important, a milestone, and it mattered, but this afternoon I was a crazy person. Decisions were waiting to be made, and as I fluttered about, called and discussed, read and re-read, the ‘why’ whooshed in and sat down beside me.
Why I needed a Romantic Dominant in my life at that precise moment was crystal clear.
It was not to scold, or to interfere. It was not to stop me mid-stream, or have me explain.
It was to sit with me, quietly, and allow me to breathe in the safety of his presence.
To softly remind me that I am not alone, that, no matter what happens, his support and love is a wall upon which I can lean. If a decision isn’t quite right, if I have to pick up the proverbial pieces, he will hold the bucket into which I will drop them, and if I ask, help me glue them back together.
The ‘why’ stayed with me, holding my hand into the evening, when it became apparent that the ‘why’ was two-fold; having survived the crazy afternoon, the evening was triumphant, and in victory, there would have been no greater reward than his engulfing arms.
Why?
There are many reasons a Dominant and submissive need each other – need, not want, but tonight, a specific ‘why’ mattered, because it brought into focus the truth of who I am.
The ‘why’ was answered.
And the void was felt.
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Ah, Maggie Carpenter, so beautifully said.
Thank you, Bebedragon.
Domination and submission bring about different needs. It’s not always about the physical; just sharing the silence is just as fulfilling. Lovely piece. xxx
Thank you, Scarlett. Exactly – sometimes those warm, heavy silent moments are more profound than can be described.
That is beautifully and tenderly expressed
How kind of you to say so. Thank you.
Oh my goodness was this fabulous! Can I please borrow your words for the conversation with DH? I’m trying to find lots of words, saying in different ways, what you said — but you said it SO fabulously. D/s is SO not just sex. It is everything that surrounds and revolves then enhances sex … but it is what you said.
Of course you can use my words, and I am just so flattered and honored that you would want to do so. Thank you, so much, for reading, for the comment, and for being so generous in your praise. You’ve made my day.
beautiful! I often struggle with the why as well, especially because I’ve worn my Master’s collar about 13 or so years. I struggle most often with others who don’t understand BDSM who ask “Why when you don’t need BDSM to get xyz?”
Thank you, Joelle, for reading, and for taking the time to share your thoughts. I am about to write another blog about this, about others perception of ‘us” and the complete disconnect that exists.
This is so beautifully true…
Thank you for reading, and for sharing, and for your kind words.